Using the power of the mind to build self confidence
Life will not be all plain sailing. Indeed, hardship, trials and tribulations are part and parcel of being. Encountering difficulty is not a bad thing, the main concern is the way we deal with it. A positive frame of mind is vital for so many reasons. Positive thinking is proven to raise performance in productivity and quality. We tend to be more confident and perform better if we are feeling positive and well.
There are biological examples of this. A positive frame of mind is because of increased levels of neuro transmitters such as serotonin that regulate the performance capabilities of the brain. The knock effects of a positive frame of mind also include better wellbeing not only better mental health but better in the physical sense aswell. This is due to the increase to the immune system that a positive frame of mind can give you.
The reverse is also true, if we are depressed we are far more liable to contracting other diseases and mental health issues. Our interaction with people deteriorate, we start to think irrationally and our confidents can fall. In short this is a frame of mind that is best to avoid at all costs. Feeling unhappy from time to time is not unusual but how we decide to face a dilemma comes from our state of mind.
A positive mental attitude is also about giving you a can do attitude. Those that think positively are far more likely to see challenges instead of issues or possibilities rather than difficulties. For instance, entrepreneurs who are successful usually are because they are able to spot opportunities for growth in a sector which others only see troubles in. The positive mental attitude of a successful individual means that opportunity becomes a reality; because they also have the drive and motivation to succeed and make their dream come true. So as you can see there is much to be gained from a positive mental attitude. The problem for most people is in developing one in the first place.
Creating a positive frame of mind is not some new aged trend. For centuries religious men and scholars alike searched for and created approaches to harness an inner harmony. While this may have begun to make humanity closer to god the essence of this idea is just as relevant in the present day. That a positive frame of mind makes us closer to the divine while a negative frame of mind can only direct us in to ways of being that are a detriment to our lives. Monks realised this long ago which is why they devote themselves to a life of abstinence and mental and spiritual fulfilment.
One of the best ways to determine your frame of mind is to think about how you are with other people. A great way to do this is to picture how you behave towards people you do not know. Are you outgoing and open to meeting and talking with people? Or are you insular and afraid. Believe it or not one of the best ways to overcome a negative frame of mind is to change your mindset towards the world around you and that means the people in it too. If you are generally uncomfortable around others then try this experiment.
One night make yourself to strike up a conversation at random in a public place. Do not worry about how you look or appear or what you discuss. A reference in regards to the weather or anything will do. Just try it and note how you feel afterwards.
You see, the way you are with others will influence the opportunities you get presented. Consider it in this way who is the most likely to get a job between two people of equivalent ability and experience except for one difference, One is uptight and uncomforable with other people and the other is laid back and comfortable with people. If I was the boss I know which one I would pick for the Job.
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